It all started out as a perfectly normal day in my freshman year. I had gotten up, a little later than usual, and gotten dressed. I checked my email, ate breakfast, and walked out the door to sit on my step and wait for Libby to pick me up for school.
“Hey”, she said when I opened the door. “Is it true Aidan has cancer?”
My heart stopped for a minute. “Umm… I don’t think so,” I said. “I just think he has internal bleeding from that hit in football.”
This fact was true; that’s what I knew. That Aidan was playing intramural football at Notre Dame and he had a hard hit to the stomach which caused him to bleed internally. No one had told me differently.
School was normal that day. I sat through morning classes, half asleep and half paying attention. When the bell rings to signal the start of fives, I rushed out of yearbook and down to the cafeteria. During lunch, I ate like normal, and socialized about the weekend with my friends. I mentioned Aidan, and how he had internal bleeding, but I didn’t mention the cancer part, because I honestly forgot about it. My friends all said they’ll pray for them, and that he has their best wishes.
After afternoon classes, it’s an unusual day, because I didn’t have soccer practice, and I got to go home. My dad was home when I get to my house. I don’t think twice about this, since it was Monday and he gets home early on Mondays. I said hi to him and Caroline, my little sister. I went up to the study, turned on the computer and AIM, put up an away message, and started my homework.
This was when I realize something weird was going on. My older sister, who’s off at Vanderbilt for college, IMed me.
“Hey, what’s up?” She said.
I quickly typed back, “Nothing but homework. How’s Aidan, and how are you?”
“He’s gonna be okay.” She responded. “Vickie, what all has Mom told you?”
“Just that he has internal bleeding. Why?”
“Oh. Go talk to mom.”
This struck me as very awkward, as usually Liz is open with me, and wouldn’t leave me hanging like this. I suddenly realized that my mom isn’t home, so I can’t go ask her why my sister has become withdrawn.
As I was pondering this, my dad walked in, and sat down on the extra chair. He looked very solemn, and this worried me. What is wrong with my family? I thought to myself.
“Vickie, I need to talk to you,” My dad said.
“Okay,” I said, turning around to face him.
Dad took a deep breath. After what seems like an eternity, he began to speak. “Aidan has cancer,” he stated.
Whoa. Did he really just say that? Oh my God. Oh my God. OH MY GOD. I couldn’t breathe for a second. I thought I might collapse from all the different things running through my mind. My thoughts returned to earlier in the day, and Libby asking me the same thing.
“What kind?” I heard my shaky voice ask.
“Testicular. He’s coming home to Indy to go through chemotherapy. He’s going to miss a whole semester of school.”
“Okay,” I said. “Thanks for telling me, Dad.”
He nodded, and left the study. As soon as I heard him going down the stairs, I burst out in tears. As hard as I tried, I couldn’t seem to digest this huge fact my dad has just told me. Aidan can’t have cancer, I kept telling myself. He’s nineteen. He’s “perfect”. And oh my God, what about Liz?
It might seem weird to call him perfect, but it seems to fit him. He and my sister met in 2005 when they were in AP Biology together. They went on Kairos together, he asked her to prom that year, and the rest evolved from there. They have been together since that April, and though they’ve had issues, you can tell how much they love each other. He graduated from Brebeuf in 2005, and attended University of Notre Dame the next fall. While at Brebeuf, he was quarterback of the football team, and pitcher for the baseball team. He was well known at Brebeuf, and in the city of Indianapolis. It’s hard to talk to someone that knows of Brebeuf without hearing about how “Wonderful” Aidan is. With this in mind, my family dubbed him “Wonder Boy”. He worked for the mayor this past summer. On top of this all, he (mostly) treats people kindly and helps out as much as possible.
Oh my God, I started thinking again. What if he dies?
I was still shaking from this thought as I turned back to the computer. I wanted so badly to talk my sister, to know how she felt and to comfort her. This was a little difficult, considering she was in Nashville, at Vanderbilt. Because of this, the computer was my only way to communicate with her. Either that, or call her cell phone, but she never picks it up. I decided to leave her a message on AIM.
“I just talked to Dad. Liz, how could you not have told me?”
And all I get to this is a simple response that was her away message: “Breathe, just breathe.”
Seems fitting to me, I thought. We all need to just breathe.
I tried to calm down; I really did, but to no avail. My thoughts kept flickering back to one thing: Aidan has cancer. It seemed like too big of a concept for my fifteen year old self to grasp. It was not something that you hear everyday- that a good friend of yours has a deadly sickness.
As I sat there in shock, sobbing, my sister IM’s me.
“Vickie,” she said. “I’m sorry I didn’t tell you. Mom wanted to.”
“I forgive you. How is he, Liz? Really?”
“He’s gonna be okay. He has to miss school to do chemo, and it’s gonna be painful, but he’ll be okay. He has a 98% chance of surviving.”
This made me feel slightly better. A 98% chance of survival was pretty incredible, but I couldn’t help thinking that as long as there was that 2% left.
No, I told myself. No more assuming the worst. I need to hope for the best. He’s not going to get better by me worrying that he’s gonna die.
I heard the garage down sound, and that meant one thing- Mom was home. I put up an away message on my buddy list that said Oh my gosh, I can’t believe it, and I rushed downstairs to greet my mom. To talk to her about this.
“Mom!” I cried.
She noticed my red eyes, my mascara-streaked face. “Did Dad tell you?” she asked.
“Yeah, he did.” The tears started flowing again.
My mom set her things down and came over to hug me. We stood there, in shock, in disbelief. And suddenly… I was saying things I shouldn’t have. I accused my mom of wishing this on him because of what he did to Liz over the summer.
After these words leave my mouth, I can’t believe I said them. I shouldn’t have treated my mom like this. She didn’t deserve this. She turned away from me hurt. I tried to apologize, but I couldn’t get out the words. I felt myself turn around and walk back up the stairs, back to the computer, back to the place where I can express myself.
Dinner was interesting. My little sister, Caroline, didn’t know about Aidan’s disease. She was nine years old, and I was not sure how my parents are going to tell her. Somehow, Aidan was brought up in a conversation, and my parents told her, very gently, that Aidan has testicular cancer, and that he has to do chemotherapy.
My little sister started crying, and it hurt me to see this. She was a very caring person, and she worried about things, a lot more then normal kids her age. I started crying too, and as hard as I tried to stop, I couldn’t.
After dinner, I cleared the table, and washed the dishes. My mom walked into the kitchen, and I walked over to her, hugged her, and apologized for what I said to her. She hugged me back, and reminded me to think before I say things.
I walked back to the computer room, and found that I have many messages on my away message. They were all from friends, asking what happened, and I typed, about 10 times, that Aidan has cancer. Seeing it on the computer screen made it seem so much more real to me. They all responded back with things like… Oh my God… or… What kind? I patiently answered their questions, knowing that they care, and that they’ll stay by me in this rough time.
I heard footsteps, and turned to see my mom walk into the room. She told me that Aidan is on his way over, and that he wanted to talk to us, to see us. Just then the doorbell rang, and it’s him. He looked completely normal, and had I not known, I would have never guessed he has cancer. I didn’t think I’ve ever been so glad to see him in my life. I hugged him, and I almost started crying again. Caroline came downstairs and hugged him too, and we all walked into the family room to watch Deal Or No Deal.
At Caroline’s bedtime, after she is upstairs, my parents started asking Aidan the serious questions. I was curious, so I remained the room, until my parents told me to go upstairs. I did, angrily, but first I gave Aidan a hug goodbye.
On my away message, I saw that my sister has left me a message. It said, “Vickie, I need you to take care of him for me, because I can’t be in Indy. Tell him that I love him.”
I heard my parents and Aidan walking towards the front hallway, and I rushed downstairs to tell Aidan that Liz loves him. He nodded, and then he left. My parents walked back into the family room, and I turned back up the stairs. I let Liz know I got her message. I said goodnight to all my friends, and then I said goodnight to Liz, and let her know that I’ll take care of him.
As I got ready for bed, my mind wandered back to Aidan. A seemingly perfectly healthy young man. I couldn’t help but think that this was what makes cancer so scary- if they haven’t lost their hair from chemotherapy, you would never be able to tell. This thought scared me, but it motivated me. It made me want to do more to help cancer victims. It made me want to help someone live.
